June 6, 2020 by Ted 818

Why Your Spouse Walks Out On Your Arguments

If you’re married to someone who can smell a fight coming and suddenly finds all kinds of reasons to catch up on organizing the garage – which you find SO ANNOYING – this one is for you. We’ve already talked about how all couples have...

May 30, 2020 by Ted 810

Why Your Spouse Really Yells At You

When I was a junior in college, I took a Red Cross lifesaving course as a PE class. Little did I know that learning how not to get drowned by a panicky swimmer would be great preparation for understanding how married couples respond to conflict...

May 23, 2020 by Ted 897

Out of Sync

We don’t always live in beautifully connected circles as married couples. Sometimes, that circle can start to feel kind of stretched. Think back to a time you weren’t in sync with your spouse. One of you probably did or didn’t do something...

May 10, 2020 by Ted 852

Your Body Has An Early Warning System

Wouldn’t it be great if every married couple lived in a connected circle where openness and acceptance and other-centeredness ruled? All of the time? In endless bliss? Why, yes. That would be awesome. It would also be nice if men smelled like a...

April 26, 2020 by Ted 814

How (Not) To Ruin Your Marriage In Isolation

Isolation = Marriage Exposure Therapy? “My wife said she would have me for better or for worse,” our friend, Ed, said after he retired. “But not for lunch.” The same could apply for marriage during social isolation. After looking forward to time...

April 4, 2020 by Ted 1508

Ask The Therapist: How To Build Connection In Crisis

I caught up with The Therapist to ask her about how social isolation can affect connection between couples. Actually, it was easy to catch up with her because we’re on house arrest together. But still… There are reports of increased divorce...

March 14, 2020 by Ted 792

It’s Good Inside The Circle

Why do you love your marriage? What is it about your marriage circle that brings you joy and security – even on the days when your world is in crisis? If we’re right that your marriage circle is modeled after God’s circle of the Father, Son...

February 29, 2020 by Ted 742

Your Brain Knows You Want Connection

If you’re reading this, I feel pretty safe saying that you have a deep longing to connect with at least one other human being. I’m not a genius. I just know a couple of important facts. Fact 1: You’re reading a blog about marriage. Unless you’re...

February 8, 2020 by Ted 2694

The Science Of A Successful Marriage

Why do some couples thrive while others struggle? Why do even thriving couples have rough patches? Social scientists have discovered some curious things about humans. Those discoveries have led them to develop Attachment Theory. This theory...