More Than Romantic Hogwash It’s Valentine’s Day weekend, the weekend of the year when we talk about romantic love the most. But what...
Love Like Jesus
“You look more and more like your dad as you get older,” Gretchen said to me recently. Luckily, I know how much she liked my dad, so I didn’t feel...
Perfect Lover
Imagine you were single and someone set you up on a date with their good friend. “You’re going to love him/her,” they gush. You feel skeptical...
How A Marriage Fail Helped Me Stop Lying To Myself
My Newlywed Marriage Fail During our first few months of marriage, Gretchen and I decided to take a long weekend with another young couple. It was...
What I Learned About God Through A Birthday Party
A Birthday Inspiration A few years back, Gretchen was about to celebrate a landmark birthday. I’m not great at doing obligatory gifts or parties...
How A Few Simple Truths Can Help Your Marriage
“We’ve all become susceptible to believing stupid lies about God, ourselves, and others.” – Chris Hall Nothing Kills A Marriage Like Lies...
How Not To Miss Out On The Best Parts Of Your Marriage
Your Marriage Timeline Just like your life is a line, so is your marriage. This is your marriage timeline. You met your spouse. Acquaintance...
Marriage And The Meaning Of Life
While we’re all for happy marriages, Gretchen and I are totally convinced that marriage is about more than living happily ever after. We...
How To Know Whether You’re Making Progress As A Spouse
My friend and teacher, Trevor Hudson, once said, “The litmus test for your spiritual growth – your journey toward becoming more like Jesus...
Name Your Pattern
Our neighbor just got a puppy. Or to be precise, the 12-year-old boy in their house got a puppy which means the parents now have a dog to take...
Ask the Therapist: How NOT to have the same argument over and over and over…
Our friend, Pat, wrote a while back asking how a couple might catch themselves as a fight is starting and interrupt a conflict before it gets out...
Games Couples Play, Part 3: Blink
Of all the games couples play, the most quiet is Blink. Unlike Fight Club, when both partners amp it up until the room gets super noisy – or...