February 7, 2021 by Ted 102

Love Like Jesus

“You look more and more like your dad as you get older,” Gretchen said to me recently. Luckily, I know how much she liked my dad, so I didn’t feel super defensive. Family resemblances are funny. Our friends, John and Joan, recently shared the...

January 30, 2021 by Ted 85

Perfect Lover

Imagine you were single and someone set you up on a date with their good friend. “You’re going to love him/her,” they gush. You feel skeptical. The last four people this friend threw at you were kind of meh. What makes this person so special?...

November 28, 2020 by Ted 146

How A Marriage Fail Helped Me Stop Lying To Myself

My Newlywed Marriage Fail During our first few months of marriage, Gretchen and I decided to take a long weekend with another young couple. It was President’s Day weekend and we headed to a cabin in the northwoods of Wisconsin for some winter...

November 7, 2020 by Ted 195

What I Learned About God Through A Birthday Party

A Birthday Inspiration A few years back, Gretchen was about to celebrate a landmark birthday. I’m not great at doing obligatory gifts or parties, but when I get an inspiration, I go for it. In this situation, I got smacked over the head with the...

October 17, 2020 by Ted 212

How A Few Simple Truths Can Help Your Marriage

“We’ve all become susceptible to believing stupid lies about God, ourselves, and others.” – Chris Hall Nothing Kills A Marriage Like Lies You don’t have to be a marriage therapist to know you can’t base your marriage on a lie. Deceiving...

October 3, 2020 by Ted 158

How Not To Miss Out On The Best Parts Of Your Marriage

Your Marriage Timeline Just like your life is a line, so is your marriage. This is your marriage timeline. You met your spouse. Acquaintance turned into something more. You probably got engaged and at some point, you got married. Someday, your...

September 12, 2020 by Ted 165

Marriage And The Meaning Of Life

While we’re all for happy marriages, Gretchen and I are totally convinced that marriage is about more than living happily ever after. We believe that marriage is one of the greatest tools to help us become who we were created to be. And...

August 29, 2020 by Ted 245

How To Know Whether You’re Making Progress As A Spouse

My friend and teacher, Trevor Hudson, once said, “The litmus test for your spiritual growth – your journey toward becoming more like Jesus – is whether you’re becoming more fun to live with.” Oof. Couldn’t the litmus test be...